GratedCheese89

Updated: 01/10/25

I've been genuine and honest in what I've wrote with no sugar coating and painted my own picture without anyone chiming in.

Good and bad points. Things that I've deemed are the most serious topics that can lead to breakdown in any conversation and turn people off.
I'm here to be open and honest and wrote the most vulnerable points for a reason. I don't want to go round in circles and beat around the bush.

If you think I've wrote too much detail and there will be nothing to talk about after because I've taken the fun out of it 🤔 Are you boring?
There's millions of things to talk about 😂.


Quick intro:
I'm respectful, logical and non judgemental individual. Your past is your past, we've all got good and bad moments. Did things we regret later or wish we hadn't done altogether but we're human and make mistakes. Hopefully we learn from them, life goes on and time is the healer.
Let's talk about the current and future.



Family:
Parents: mum-61, dad-65 (Pakistani born)
bro- 28 - (Scottish)
sis- 30 - (Scottish) married 4 kids
sis- 32 - (Scottish) married
bro- 40 - (English) divorced 1 kid

We're close knit and private family that usually stay away from outside drama. We're humble and stick together when we can, we are dysfunctional at times - we don't care about bs (got our own lives to worry about) type and enjoy each others company. Parents are chilled too.


Pets:
I have two, seven yr old cats - Jam and Cake.
Jam gave birth to six babies. Four are six .
One is four.
One passed away RIP Oreo.

Yes! I'm a crazy cat man, family are angry but they're secretly (put up) in love with them 😂🤣
They also scream get rid of them and find a woman instead asap! 😭


Ambitions:
I like to keep it simple but also like challenges.
I'm never against anything [skills/achievements/qualifications] that can help me in the future or learning about things in general.
I'm a highly self-motivational and positive person.
My main goals in life would be to get a house paid off asap and have my own family, I'll be content.
I don't need fancy stuff or go beyond my means if I can't support it.
But, I'm of the mindset you get what worked/paid for.

I'm not against searching for new experiences and trying new things. I can go out of my comfort zone when I amp myself up.
I'd like to travel the world and learn about new cultures and try all kinds of foods.
Hopefully becoming a better Muslim that will learn more about Islam and instill those values into future offspring, Insh'allah.
I'll never stop my spouse (where art thou) from doing whatever she wants to achieve.
If she tries to further her ambitions/career/achievements or tries to push myself to look for new goals. I'd be supporting, loving and encouraging for her to take the reigns.


Prelude:
I've slowly come around and have had several long serious conversations about settling down and starting my own family.
I'd like to avoid an arranged marriage at all costs and find the one naturally. Hopefully wherever you are, reach out asap so we can both walk our path asap.
I'm not against arranged marriage but feel if we seek each other out rather than someone else taking control, it's our moment that no one can claim.

Religion: (more in Education)
I want to change this for the better.
I'm not practicing or had anything to do with religion since I was 19.

Growing up I've had little to none (only parents) Muslim people push me to learn Islam, with little knowledge or resources available to my parents in the 90s (moved from Pakistan, in England for a handful of years).
For me growing up it was extremely hard for them to juggle work, teach me and siblings and adjust to western lifestyle. They were learning with us 🥺Eventually in my mid teens I had been around not so many great Muslims that have used the religion as a front to be good in the communities eyes but to do bad stuff in the shadows then had a change of heart when caught only to go back when the fires out.
This shaped my opinion in a negative way for whatever reason back then and eventually became my excuse of becoming a workaholic, eat, sleep repeat for the past decade plus.

I've mixed toxic culture with religion in my mind and not been able to tell the difference until recently.


Education:
Born in Eng/89 I moved to Pakistan to live/raised by grandparents for 2 years. After I came back Dad decided to shift the family to Scotland (Kirkintilloch then Cumbernauld) between 1992-2004. We had no family or relatives when out there.
Closest family friends where 30+ miles away and trips see them/us were a couple of times a year.
Growing up I was taught in a Catholic school and I didn't understand what was going on or why I was different - this from nursery all the way to secondary school.

Things changed when we moved back to England. Out of school for 4 months and switching from Scottish system to GCSE system at age 15, with a year and some months before from exams. I was told I was basically starting from scratch. Everything became overwhelming especially when all people would do is fixate on my accent - (which we all still have when speaking amongst ourselves and change when speaking to everyone else 😂).
So I had to fight through my education and go to colleges, extra courses and BTEC and other malarkey to get enough points (280) to get into UNI.
I went to DMU in Leicester to study Computer Science but lost passion as the industry I wanted to work in was one of the worst/vile the more I learned about it (Game Development). Leading me to not passing the final year (it was hard for myself).
This has left somewhat sour taste in my mouth and at the moment not really looking to get back into education anytime soon.


How people describe me:
Immature/Mature/Quick Witt/Easy to talk to/Strange/Quirky/Weird/Intelligent/Meany/Cold/Brutally Honest/Joker/Idiot/Ass/Annoying/Open/Welcoming/Non-Judgmental/Good Listener/Funny/Laid Back/Care Free.
Numerous people of all ages and races have said this to me, Good or bad 🤷🏼‍♂️
I don't like being bland or just another plain Doe.
I just have a different outlook on life and love to smile/laugh and joke.

Describing my Traits/Qualities/Miscellaneous:
Joker/Fool/Patient/Forgiving/Non-Judgmental/Consistent/Realist/Coconut/Humble/Open Minded/Logical Thinker/Nerd/Progressive/Positive/Calm/Reserved/Introverted/Undivided Attention/Realist/Optimistic/Pessimistic 🤷/Silly/Witty/Chilled/Laid Back/Joker/Fool

I can detach myself from reality. I have thick skin and dish out witty banter quickly.
I've no filter/foul mouthed when pushed repeatedly but tend to avoid it mostly and am able to adapt to most topics.
I could talk for England and bore you to death or make you want to rip your ears off.

*Taught the value of a penny/hard work
*Making jokes/light of myself
*Empathetic/understanding
*I choose zealousy over jealousy
*I like dark humour
*Don't care about vanity/pride/shame
*Love small details
*Can go off into endless tangents.
*Can live with material or without
*Enjoy nature/beautiful sights
*Love animals, hate all insects, creepy sea creatures
*My imagination is pretty vivid and weird
*Reading gibberish good/bad/abstract/random/fiction/non fiction - if I find it interesting
*Equality - woman should have equal rights/pay and be able to do whatever the hell they want. Watched colleagues and family treated bad and it's systemic bs and I'm not afraid to speak out for them
*Competitive not sore (Depends 😏)
*Problem (creator) solver
*Curiosity/knowledge seeker - I will (try) learn about anything
*If I'm not familiar with something I won't spout or act as if I do
*Working smart not hard.
*Not afraid to go out of comfort zone
*I'll admit wrongdoing - apologetic
*Chatterbox or silent mouse.
*Great listener - neutral and non biased
*Full of energy
*Limitless sarcasm
*Optimising everything if possible
*Can take or dish out banter.
*Don't hold grudges - Ain't got time for that 😂
*Foresight - Learned recently not everyone plans ahead and stress about a everything


Hobbies:
Health and fitness/Working out/Video games/Binge watching series

Restarted my diet on 09/04/25
Went from XL to Medium in 30 days
currently weigh 189lbs/83.5kg
5'11 toned but skinny.
Going to put on muscle again but stay lean
Also I groom, have a skincare routine as well as being on a very strict diet

Cooking:
Learned to cook in first lockdown in March 2020, Not afraid to fail and try again.
I know how to make roti in my head. But in reality 😩


Some Favs:
Comedian: Dave Chappelle
Improv: Middleditch & Schwartz
Documentaries: WW II in colour/Planet Earth
Movie: Lion King/Robin Hood (cartoon fox)/Joker/Wolf of Wallstreet/Inception/Batman Trilogy/Bourne Trilogy
TV Show: Always Sunny/Breaking Bad/Fresh Prince
Anime: Attack on Titan/DBZ/Death Note
Fan of Marvel/DC
Also like Harry Potter - Best is 3rd.
Game of Thrones ending was ass, too many plot holes and loose ends, ruined years of progression and storytelling

Sports:
Can follow most sports. Footie/Tennis top two.


Music:
Anything that sounds good to me. I don't have any favs - I'd rather listen to random podcasts and stories

TV:
Convince me anything had a good story and I'll give it a try. TV shows, Movies, Documentary, Comedy sketch, Netflix or an Anime series. Always looking for more recommendations

Tech/Gaming:
Love messing with tech and playing video games

Food:
I'm open to trying anything


There's a ton more I could write. Just message for any questions

Note: If I respond to you and we're chatting, it doesn't automatically mean I'm on cloud 9.
We've got to get past the small talk on either side to see if something sparks.
You need to make me interested in conversing with you.
Reverse the situation. What would you do?

I would like minimum 3-6 months of back and forth with a couple of meetings in person in public setting (coffee, eating out, you choose anything I'm not fussed).
if things progress well enough we can shorten it and go to the next step.


I will also note that I'm not financially stable anymore as I once was. I'm not (a scrub) one to lean on anyone and not embarrassed to state it here, but I'll let you know beforehand.

I pay all the bills, do the weekly shopping and budget and save whatever is left over.
My credit score is almost perfect and I tend to buy whatever I want if I think it's worth the purchase.

I would also like to stay at my family home which is close to my job and not relocate if possible.


...
This is an arduous approach/search which not everyone likes but again finding the one is not a race!
Everyone is travelling at their own pace - I'm going to what I've adjusted to.

I'm not one for a perfect checklist nor demanding. I just want an equal that I can stand side by side and enjoy my future with 😊
I'd like to avoid a divorce [altogether] in a decade or less (Inshallah).
Preferably a one and done deal (Inshallah).



People with no pictures - Ladies, I get why you need the anonymity and privacy.
I won't pry or ask for you to reveal yourself if it's a casual conversation but if you begin asking serious questions and want to progress further - You already have a complete summary and visual of me 😅
Please reveal what you look like or don't take offence if l ask.



Single parents:
I'm not against talking or conversing casually with single parents that come across my profile but I'd like to avoid this preference for relationship purposes.
I wish I didn't feel this way and please don't think I wouldn't care about your own as if they weren't my own but having the biological father in the picture can go right or wrong in many scenarios and personally I've admitted to myself I don't think I'm strong enough to accept that they come into our lives and not expect the worst at any moment.

If you're in these 4 categories, get in touch:

Castes - Any and all welcome
Nationality - Salaam all.
Reverts - Hello.
Annulled/Divorced/Separated - They weren't the right one - No issues unless you're crazy X puts a target on me.

Mutual attraction.
I'm for liking and attracted to great personalities but at the same time I need to be physically attracted to whomever too. I'm a 50/50 kinda guy.
I'm more into natural beauty than make up and fillers, doesn't mean I'm against that, lots of you ladies are gorgeous with or without makeup.
look at me 😭🥲😂🤣😬
I'll update with better pictures when I can but what you see is what you get 😅


If I decline someone who's reached out I'm sorry but I'm not one to lead anyone on. Please don't get your hopes up if you resonate with my profile and ask questions but can't acccept my answers.




My ideal preference:
I'm open to all as stated above and below.

I'd like to have romance/love/friendship. I like role playing and don't mind some (light) kinky stuff 🤷🏽
I want a strong connection and bond not something fickle. When I'm focused on you, I'll only have tunnel vision with you in front of me and no one else.


Ages: 30-38
Not too fused unless you're wa~y out of my generation.
But if you think we could be a match and outside of these then message.
I've had much older people reach out and demand their invitation for a meet up 🤣
Straight up rejection will follow - don't preach to me what you want and to accept you with open arms - move on.
If you want a conversation I'm all ears



Some qualities/traits I try to show or live by are what I'd like in a spouse

Equal/Loyal/Respectful/Banter/Cheek/Joker/Mouthy/Sarcastic/Independent/Strong/Active/Fit/Exercise/Spontaneous/Compromise/Forgiving/Tolerant/Open Minded/Positive/Modern/Traditional/Chilled/Laid Back/Progressive

Likes Animals? (cats)
Buy me takeout at 3am 🥺😘
Not shy to talk about anything/topic

Have a personality - I've spoken to people that have told me they have no hobbies and do nothing in their free time. How!?

If you want to know more drop me a message.